Does the thought of guys jerking off together seem a bit odd to you? Well for some of you, the thought of men masturbating in a group might come off as a weird sexual fetish, however, it’s not as uncommon as one might think.

The truth of the matter is, “bators” (men who seek out opportunities of mutual masturbation) are not an uncommon sight in the US gay scene. However, the fear of being seen and deemed as “weird” or “pervy” keeps many people in the closet like in with other fetishes in the world of sex, let that be gay or straight.

That being said, in this article, we will explore the world of bators, or the scene where guys jerk off together.

It’s the Same Motion, Only, You’re Not by Yourself

When you think about it, masturbating all by yourself is still pretty tame and something that we already indulge in. The problem is, most people view jerking off alone as failed sex or as the hobby of loner internet trolls. These are the things that make most people who’d otherwise be happily jerking off together keeping their fetishes at bay, and silent about their desires.

Mutual masturbation in the gay community is often considered as something that is sex-adjacent, and can also act as a heterosexual fig leaf, because “it’s just dudes having fun, it has nothing to do with sex.”

For many in the gay community, jerking together is a compromising act when one party (or both) are tired. For others, however, beating it off with someone (or more people) is a prime sexual experience on its own right.

A Way to Connect

Connect, but not in the traditional kind of way. People in the gay community often tell stories about other gay friends whom they used to masturbate together.

It wasn’t really about romance or love, more about a way to hang out, with a flavor of intimacy and horny sparkle. After whacking off, these people would start talking about regular random topics, often grab a drink or few, nothing special. However, some of them state that they’ve managed to cultivate a deeper friendship between them thanks to the sexual tension that arose during these “group sessions” and the fact that they – technically – didn’t sleep with each other in the end.

The Community Lives

In an effort to get a better understanding of masturbating together with other men, people with this fetish often go looking for others who share the same sexual desires – who don’t only look at masturbation as a supplementary activity instead of sex but as a staple of a balanced sex life.

Fortunately, there are a lot of websites on the internet that explore these themes and there are also a couple of platforms that even offer a thriving community where people can freely explore their desires without being judged.

Such a community is BateWorld, and indeed, a rather vibrant community it is. The majority of the members are gay, but there’s also a considerable amount of bisexual and straight members too. As such, BateWorld offers guys an opportunity to safely jerk off with other men and have some innocent fun in the process.

On the other hand, our community platform comes with an abundance of categories making sure that our members seek out the companionship of like-minded people with the possibility of clarifying the type of relationship you are seeking to have. Apart from that, it also lets you express your sexual freedom and the opportunity to share your bator stories and desires with the rest of the community.

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The Safest Option

Apart from being mostly just a kink for some, for others who identify themselves as solosexuals, beating it together isn’t only a “thing”, it’s essentially “the thing”. For others, it’s a safer alternative to sex, and to be honest, when it comes to sex, mutual masturbation might be the safest way to practice intimate relations in a harmless fashion. It is probably the only form of such acts between two guys that needs no preparation, making it the go-to activity whenever, wherever.

Then again, there are those who simply enjoy “the ride.” These people (gay or straight) simply enjoy taking part in such activities, let them be online or offline. They are those who love the motion of group jerking with like-minded people and friends. They like witnessing it, living it, and being a part of it.

Also, there are those who see this as a “hobby”. This might also come off as a bit weird, however, there are some avid bators out there who think about beating their meat together with other men as a great free-time activity that has all the benefits of self-pleasure, plus there’s the added element of the “group factor” making it all that more appealing to them.

Others are more open about their “jerk-agenda.” They are those who openly admit that they simply just want to see penises and that they are fascinated by them. The motion of exploring another person and its intimacy, this shared experience is what drives these men, who are looking to recall their adolescent curiosities about the bodies of other males.

Guys Just Wanna Have Fun

When you masturbate, you are essentially having sex with yourself. In a group, you are having sex with yourself with other people who are doing the same. When you take a look at it, it’s the ideal open-relationship alternative for many people with clear limits of intimacy. Even though most men who practice these activities often look for more, like oral fellatio and kissing, however, drawing the line is straightforward and easy with mutual masturbation. The intimate experience and the release are both shared and individual without ruining ongoing relationships. All parties might be involved in the act itself, however, it’s not actual sex with another partner.

Also, we can argue about what would count as cheating nowadays. As we’d put it, to each its own. Some might consider flirting as crossing the line, and for others, under specific circumstances, even penetration and climax don’t qualify as cheating, even though it couldn’t get any farther from that.

All in all, group masturbation can be a great way to explore one’s sexuality and fetishes whether gay or straight. The takeaway should be to keep an open mind and to explore your sexual nature, desires, and needs as much as possible.

Why? Because only then can you truly enjoy any sexual act when you know your own preferences and boundaries. Otherwise, you will have quite a few bitter moments between the sheets.

That being said, feel free to become a part of our vibrant community and explore the world of bators. The door is open, all you have to do is cum in.